The modern day myth is that once vows are spoken and rings exchanged, newlyweds embark on a fairy tale existence, carrying on their lives together happily ever after. In reality, however, changes in each person’s desires, priorities or circumstances may mean that separation is real possibility.
Whilst separation can be a fraught and contentious period, it can be made less stressful. Here, we go on to consider various ways in which one can ease the blow of separation.
Don’t Go it Alone
In many contexts, having reassurance and a helping hand makes a situation easier. When it comes to separation, visiting a solicitor does not necessarily result in the beginning of long, complex or expensive proceedings. In actual fact, obtaining accurate and professional advice is an essential step in being adequately informed about your rights, options and best way forward . A solicitor can offer you the support, reassurance and professional guidance necessary to get through separation.
It is very common for partners and married couples to share financial assets between them both. However, when it comes to separation, divided assets and accounts often cause a significant amount of contention and angst during the separation period.
According to the law, separating couples are obliged to fully disclose their finances to each other, so it helps to be aware of your own situation before your ex makes any demands or disputes . Stay aware of your own finances by keeping copies of your important financial documents and talking through your situation with a professional. Financial documents that require completion after separation are often complex, detailed and difficult to understand, so it is thoroughly advisable to talk through your situation with a professional who can complete the forms for you, or at least with you.
What’s Mine is…Mine!
Whilst solicitors at Brookman can assist with completing financial forms accurately to ensure that they abide by the law, we can also offer sound advice and guidance as to the best steps to take in order to ensure that your assets are protected and you retain those funds that are rightfully yours.
So you may not be husband and wife, but you’re still Mummy and Daddy . A separation should remain between two adults and whilst it can be tough for the grown-ups, repercussions on the children should be kept to a minimum. Brookman can advise how to minimise the impact of separation on your little ones and, when cases get serious, offer quick access to professional bodies and Court Orders to ensure your child is protected . Remember that being a parent is not the same as being a partner.
Many separating couples try desperately to hold it together and appear calm and collected in front of their children, family members or other external onlookers. However, separation is not only a massive change to your love life, but it also has huge repercussions on other aspects of your life, including your living arrangement, financial circumstances and daily routine. Whilst the rational aspects of a separation can be distracting, it is important to deal with the emotional impact of such a turbulent period and consider professional counselling. Brookman can offer links to some of the most prestigious connections to sound counselling, mediation and family therapy.
Face the Future
Separation is an end to partnerships that belong to the past. However, separation also should be a time in which couples consider their future. Whilst housing, new partnerships and social arrangements are all elements that may need to be considered, it is advisable that recently separated partners take care of their finances by visiting a financial advisor, who can help you to plan for the future and protect yourself. The solicitors at Brookman can talk you through your options, such as wills and tax planning , in order to ensure you are protected and in the best possible position when it comes to post-separation finances.
Here at Brookman, we fully understand that separation is no easy ride and as such, we offer free initial consultations to give potential clients an opportunity to build a rapport with our team and see whether we can offer you the best guidance at this difficult period. We have years of experience offering sound legal advice in all areas that are affected by separation, as well as strong links to external legal bodies. Filling a niche role in our field, we confidently provide the advice, action or reassurance that you need during separation.