Many a client who comes into the office to discuss their break up and imminent divorce understandably finds it difficult to accept the relationship is really over, even when the other party has given every indication that they do not wish to continue with the marriage. If every attempt to reconcile has been unsuccessful, both parties must accept it is over. But divorce is an extremely emotional time and being logical isn’t always easy.
There are some who will not give up still blinded by love, but surely you cannot force someone to stay with you. Where’s the benefit in that? Divorce Petitions are issued every day for reasons of unreasonable behaviour, adultery and by consent. A person can defend the divorce, but really what purpose would that serve if the other party really did not want to be with that person any longer? Unless the other party thinks the Petitioner has temporarily lost their senses and will eventually come back to reality, and realise they should stay together, prolonging the divorce process can actually be more painful for all parties concerned.
If however, we consider this situation from the Petitioner’s viewpoint, they may well feel that the other party is being unnecessarily obstructive and possibly simply getting revenge. That could be unreasonable behaviour itself. At the extreme, too, there is also a ground for 5 years’ separation available on petition which allows a person to petition without the consent of the other person.
But even divorce isn’t forever. There are of course always those who divorce and then remarry years later to the same person. Take for instance the famous couple, Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton. In some cases, remarrying your ex-spouse works out well for the couple, but as for Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton the same unresolved problems lead to divorce again!