It is good for everyone if a divorce and separation can be resolved amicably. Wherever possible we try to resolve matters by agreement, whilst making sure that we stand by our clients’ interests.

Where matters cannot be easily resolved, litigation in a court is not the only way forward.

There is a confusing list of different names for different steps in the process, which are explained below:

  • Mediation consists of a series of off the record but structured discussions with a trained mediator. Often the mediator is a separate lawyer. Lawyers are not present in the mediation sessions, but they generally give steering advice to their clients while the mediation continues. Mediation can be quite lengthy and for that reason can be moderately expensive.
  • Negotiation is just that. Lawyers always negotiate in divorce disputes and the great majority of matters are settled before any court proceedings at all or at least before court hearings.
  • Collaborative law is a process whereby the lawyers undertake to negotiate a matter to a settlement. They sign an undertaking that if they do not reach a settlement, they will no longer act for the client. The theory is that then the lawyers will have an interest in arriving at a result rather than taking a litigious approach, but there is no evidence that these undertakings have that effect.
  • “Collaborative law-lite” is where the solicitors do not sign such an agreement, and as such it is, in effect, a meaningless statement of intent only, and no different to ordinary negotiation.
  • Alternative dispute resolution is a label that covers all of the above, and also arbitration proceedings.
  • Arbitration is when the parties engage an arbitrator to decide their matter, rather than a judge in court. Although the cost of the arbitrator can be significant, arbitration often saves time and money by condensing the process.

We consider that it is important for a client first to have a good understanding of their position before they enter into one of these processes.

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Mediation Scenarios

The scenarios below do not relate to any individual clients of ours but the facts and the outcomes relate to some similar experiences in our practice.

The Scenario

Mr S lived abroad. His ex-wife lived in England with their son now 10. He wanted his son to come to visit his country saying he was now old enough to travel. His ex-wife did not agree.

Our Solution

We arranged for a trained family counsellor to mediate. She held several sessions over 6 months until they agreed on a trial visit abroad. Both were very reassured by the other's demonstration of good faith and the positive atmosphere ensured future successful visits.

The Scenario

Mrs A came to us after attending 3 mediation sessions. She said "My husband is a good businessman and negotiator. Our mediator was a social worker and even with his mediation training he was out of his depth. I've decided I need someone who can represent my interests."

Our Solution

We advised her not to abandon mediation but for us to cross-check how it was going and to ensure she had ongoing advice. This enabled some issues to be settled. We and Mr A's lawyers sorted out the remaining matters fairly easily.

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About The Team

We are a specialist divorce and international divorce family law team, advising clients in the United Kingdom (specifically England and Wales) and throughout the world. We have a very people–orientated approach to working with clients. Henry Brookman has practised law for over 45 years, and our team has a wide range of skills and expertise. We are recommended by the Legal 500 and have been awarded the Law Society’s quality mark, Lexcel.

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Philip Morton

Recommended by The Legal 500, Philip is an expert in all areas of family law, including domestic and international financial disputes, fraud and commercial dispute resolution.

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Henry Brookman

With over 45 years' experience, Henry Brookman is the senior member of the team. He is described by The Legal 500 as ‘shrewd, savvy, sagacious and highly experienced’.

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Natasha Slabas

Expert in all areas of family law, often involving cases that have an international element, including work in relation to financial settlements following divorce.

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Mark Rennie

Mark is the Group Head of the Horsham Family Law team. He specialises in all areas of matrimonial law, including complex divorce and financial disputes, and is recommended by The Legal 500.

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Nigel Winter

A highly experienced solicitor, Nigel has expertise in collaborative law, divorce, contested litigation, relationship agreements, and children matters. Nigel is recommended by The Legal 500.

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Samantha Jago

Partner at our Guildford office and recommended by The Legal 500, Samantha has specialist expertise in divorce, children matters, complex international cases, and is a trained mediator.

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Joanna Potbury

Family law specialist based in Brighton advising on divorce, cohabitation agreements, children, post-nuptial agreements, and domestic violence. Joanna is recommended by The Legal 500.

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Kevin Danagher

Kevin specialises exclusively in family law, advising on all aspects of relationship breakdown, divorce, same sex marriage, marital agreements, and international family cases.

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Ella Welsby

Known for her sensitivity and discretion combined with significant expertise, Ella advises on all family issues including high-value and multi-jurisdiction divorce and complex financial and children matters.

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Gemma Garrett

Based in Horsham, Gemma is a specialist advising on all areas of family law including divorce and separation (often involving jurisdiction issues), complex financial matters, and children matters.

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Alicia Cenizo

Alicia is a Partner in the family team and advises on all elements of family law, particularly private children work, including matters with an international element such as relocation.

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Rachel Osgood

Rachel specialises in financial claims on divorce and separation with a particular emphasis on high value cases and those involving inheritances, family businesses and claims by adult children.

Partner

Nisha Tayal

With over 20 years of expertise in family law, Nisha specialises on all aspects of relationship breakdown and is trusted by clients for her discreet, tailored advice.

Family Director (filex)

Natalie Matthews Bunting

Natalie is a specialist in divorce and financial remedy, including high value cases involving multiple pensions, multiple properties and multiple businesses.

Senior Associate

Lauren Blythe

Lauren is a highly regarded specialist family law solicitor, based at our Guildford office. She advises on divorce, family finances, children matters, domestic abuse, cohabitee issues, and relationship agreements.

Senior Solicitor

Susan Hayes

Susan qualified as a solicitor in 1992 and is based at our Brighton office. She is a longstanding member of the Law Society Specialist Children Panel and Family Law Panel. Susan is also a trained Collaborative Lawyer.

Associate

Rachael Au

Rachael is a highly capable member of the family team in Brighton. She specialises in family law, advising on divorce, civil partnerships, financial matters, and children issues.

Associate

Alice Barrett

Alice advises and supports clients on a range of family law matters including divorce, separation, financial remedy, private children matters and emergency applications.

Associate

Amelia Groom

Amelia has experience across a full range of family matters, including divorce, complex disputes regarding finances that range from trusts through to cryptocurrencies, and arrangements for children.

Associate

Natalie Higham

Natalie is a Family Legal Executive who advises individuals on divorce, separation, financial remedies available to them on the breakdown of their relationship, and children matters.

Associate

Katie O'Kelly

Katie advises on a wide range of family law matters including co-habitation, divorce and separation, financial remedies, and private children law matters.

Solicitor

Sophie John

An experienced solicitor, Sophie advises on matters relating to divorce, financial separation in both marriages and cohabiting relationships and children arrangements.

Solicitor

Alex Robinson

Alex supports the family team on a variety of matrimonial and Children Act matters that are often complex and with an international element.

Paralegal

Michelle Davies

Part of the Family Law team, Michelle supports on a variety of cases involving divorce, finances, children matters and day to day enquiries.

Paralegal

Isabelle Basson

Isabelle is responsible for following up day-to-day enquiries, administrative case management and generally supporting the Family team fee-earners.

Paralegal

Amelia Mahraj

Amelia is responsible, in her current role, for dealing with day-to day enquiries, administrative duties and supporting fee earners.

Paralegal

Aimee Atalay

Aimee provides dedicated support to the Family and Contentious Probate teams across a diverse range of matters. Aimee studied Law and Criminology at the University of Kent.

Paralegal

Izzy Minor

Izzy Minor is a Paralegal in the Family Team, supporting fee earners, and is a qualified Advanced CILEx Paralegal (MCILEx), holding a Diploma in Law and Practice.

Paralegal

Madison Bryant-Pollins

Madison provides dedicated support to the Family and Contentious Probate teams, including case management and the provision of clear, empathetic assistance to clients.

Secretary

Victoria Delatouche

Victoria is a highly experienced Legal Secretary and a long-standing member of the team. She provides secretarial support for the office.

Secretary

Michelle Louison

Michelle provides secretarial support to Henry Brookman. A very experienced family law secretary, Michelle has worked in law for over 12 years.

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