Complex child arrangements disputes need careful handling because decisions made along the way can have lasting consequences. Before deciding what should happen, the court may need to establish what has happened within the family and understand how those experiences have affected the child.

What makes a child arrangements dispute complex?

A dispute usually becomes complex because of the issues involved, the evidence needed to understand them, or the difficulty of finding an arrangement that protects the child and works in practice. For instance, if a parent alleges the child has experienced abuse, the court must consider the potential danger before deciding how time with a parent should take place. Concerns about alcohol or drug use can also require closer investigation, particularly where there are reports of a parent being unable to supervise the child safely.

Other cases become complicated through years of unresolved disagreement; parents may interpret every late collection or unanswered message as further evidence of wrongdoing, leaving little room for discussion.

Relocation can introduce another layer of difficulty, where although a proposed move may offer better housing or family support, it also results in the child’s existing relationship with the other parent much harder to maintain.

Addressing immediate concerns about safety

Where a child appears to be in immediate danger, obtaining protection takes priority over resolving any longer-term arrangements. An emergency may require police involvement, while concerns about a child’s welfare may need to be referred to the local authority’s children’s services.

Urgent legal advice can help establish whether a court application should be made, including whether the circumstances justify asking the court to act urgently without first notifying the other parent.

A prohibited steps order may be relevant where there is a risk of a particular action being taken, such as taking a child abroad without the necessary consent. Where an existing order is in place, a parent who believes its arrangements have become unsafe should seek urgent advice about bringing the issue back before the court.

How the court approaches competing allegations

It is not unusual for each parent to give a very different account of family life during proceedings; one may describe intimidation or controlling behaviour, while the other denies abuse and alleges deliberate interference with their relationship with the child.

The court does not resolve that disagreement by assuming the truth lies halfway between the two accounts. It considers which disputed matters are relevant to the child’s welfare and what evidence is needed to address them fairly.

Allegations of domestic abuse must be considered for their significance to the decisions about the child, including whether disputed facts need to be determined by a fact finding hearing before safe arrangements can be made.  This means explaining concerns clearly and showing how they affect the child or the proposed arrangements. A lengthy account of every disagreement during the relationship may obscure the behaviour that most needs the court’s attention.

When a fact-finding hearing may be necessary

A fact-finding hearing allows the court to decide disputed factual issues before moving on to the welfare decisions that depend on them. The judge considers whether such a hearing is necessary and proportionate; for example, if allegations of serious violence are denied and their truth would materially affect whether direct contact is safe, determining those allegations may be essential.

Where abuse is established, the findings inform the later assessment of risk and suitable arrangements. The court must consider what those findings mean for the child and the parent who has experienced abuse, rather than treating the hearing as an isolated exercise.

The role of Cafcass and other professionals

The court may ask a family court advisor from Cafcass to produce a section 7 report to examine the family’s circumstances more closely. They will usually engage with the child to understand their experiences and wishes, alongside considering the concerns that the court has asked them to investigate. Recommendations help the judge assess possible arrangements, although the judge remains responsible for the decision, and doesn’t have to follow its advice.

Information from a school or a social worker may also be valuable where a teacher’s observations could help explain whether a child’s anxiety is affecting attendance or their ability to settle in class.

An independent expert is sometimes needed, but such involvement is not automatic because a case is difficult. The court’s permission is generally required, and expert evidence must be necessary to assist the court in resolving the proceedings. In particularly difficult cases, the child may be made a party to the proceedings and separately represented through a children’s guardian and solicitor.

How long proceedings may take

It is hard to estimate a particular timetable for a complex child arrangements dispute, and it is not uncommon for proceedings to last many months, with some continuing for more than a year.

The availability of assessments and court hearing dates can also affect progress, and further delay may arise if new concerns emerge that cannot fairly be left unexplored.

Clear case management helps keep the proceedings focused. Identifying the key disputes early and obtaining the evidence that answers them can reduce unnecessary hearings.

Reaching a workable outcome

The court can make a child arrangements order deciding where the child lives and how they spend time with another person. A specific issue order can determine a particular question about their upbringing, while a prohibited steps order can restrict a specified action. Existing orders can also be varied or discharged where appropriate.

Whatever the dispute, the outcome must reflect the individual child’s welfare. In some cases, this means rebuilding a relationship through carefully managed contact; in others, restrictions may be necessary because the risks cannot presently be addressed.

As specialist children law solicitors, we can help parents identify the central issues and present the evidence in a way that assists the court. We can also assess proposed arrangements, explaining where agreement may be possible and where protective action is needed.

If you would like advice on a complex child arrangements dispute, please contact our team today. We can help you understand your options and work towards arrangements that protect your child’s welfare and provide greater stability for the future.

View related pages: 

Child Arrangements Child Contact Disputes
Domestic Abuse & Child Arrangements Parental Responsibility Orders And Agreements
Parental Alienation & Family Law Child Residence & Living Arrangements
Supervised & Supported Child Contact Complex Child Arrangements Disputes
Varying & Enforcing Child Arrangements Orders Fact-Finding Hearings In Children Proceedings

 

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Children's Issues

The scenario below does not relate to any individual clients of ours but the facts and the outcomes relate to some similar experiences in our practice.

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The Scenario

Mr and Mrs H separated. Mr H moved a few streets away and their eldest boy (now 15) lived with him. The younger children (14 and 12) stayed with Mrs H but the children live near each other and attend the same school.

Mrs H remarried and wishes to move to her new husband's city. Mr H sought advice about residence of the other children. He told us the middle child wanted to stay at school with his friends.

Our Solution

There is no set age at which a child can "choose". Nevertheless in reality it would be hard for Mrs H to resist the 14 year old's wishes. We needed to be careful not to stress the children. Rather than issuing proceedingswe arranged mediation for Mr and Mrs H to discuss the issues.

We advised Mr H to be flexible regarding contact. They reached an amicable arrangement for all children to live with Mr H for the school week and half weekends; and flexible school holiday arrangements.

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Children's Issues FAQs

Here is a selection of common questions relating to how children are involved in and affected by the divorce process. If you have unanswered questions, please contact us using the form above or you can contact us here.

Who Can Apply For Child Arrangements Orders?

Either parent can apply for orders relating to children as well as anyone with parental responsibility for the child. Sometimes grandparents or other relatives ask us if they can apply for child arrangements orders. The answer is that they can but they need to clear an extra hurdle first by seeking the permission of the court to do so.

Can I Use Mediation To Settle Disputes About The Children?

Yes. Most child issues are settled through negotiation and mediation. Court is often seen as a last resort. The mediation process is less formal than the court process and many of our clients report that they find mediation less stressful than the idea of going to court. Agreeing arrangements also gives you more of a sense of control over the issues. And it’s possible to formalise anything you agree with your ex spouse through mediation by making the agreement part of a Consent Order.  Once you get this approved by a family judge it’s legally binding.

Do we have to go to Court to decide what will happen to the children?

No, in almost all cases this is not required. Typically, the parents agree and often formalise the arrangement with the assistance of their lawyer. Where parents agree there is usually no need for any court order at all. If the parents cannot agree it would then become a matter for the Court to decide.

Can I insist that I see my child on special occasions, such as birthdays?

Normally the non-resident parent will be able to agree to see their child on significant dates and occasions. This can either be agreed informally with the other parent but if there is a dispute then the non-resident parent could apply for a court order.

Can I take my child to live abroad after divorce?

Permission will be required from the other parent or via a court order. Taking your child abroad for longer than a holiday would be considered abduction and the other parent could apply to the Child Abduction Unit to have your child brought home.

What happens to step children regarding custody and maintenance?

If the step-parent has taken the role of parent during the marriage and their ex-spouse (the biological parent) is not able to provide for the child, the step-parent may then be required to pay child maintenance.  Whilst it is typical for the child’s biological parent to gain residence, this is not always the case. It will depend on how capable the parents are to provide for the child what is in the child’s best interests.

Does the CMS (formerly the CSA) have to be involved in deciding child maintenance?

No. Whilst you may use a CMS calculation to aid with deciding a maintenance payment figure, it is then common for a private maintenance agreement to be set up by your lawyers. The CMS or court do not then need to be involved. If required, 12 months from the agreement, the CMS can become involved if either party wishes it.

Can I change my child’s surname after divorce?

Changing your child’s surname would require the other parent’s written consent or a court order.

Will the family home be retained for the child to live in?

If it is in the best interests of the child to remain in the family home with one of the parents it is possible that the court will order the home to be retained for a set length of time.

Can I move with my child to another part of the UK?

If you are the resident parent, you do not need the other parent’s permission to move with your child within the UK. However, the other parent could request a court order preventing you from moving whilst the situation is looked at in more detail. In making a decision as to the child’s living arrangements, the court will always look first at what is in the best interests of the child.

Can I take my child abroad on holiday?

If you have a court order setting out that the child is to live with you then you do not need ask permission from the other parent to go on holiday abroad for up to 28 days. If you do not have a court order, you will require the permission of the other parent. If the other parent will not give permission, you can apply for an order to go on holiday with the child.

Will my ex-spouse having a new partner affect what contact they can have with our child?

Typically no. However, if you have good reason to be concerned about your child’s welfare with regard to your ex’s new partner, you could apply for conditions to be imposed upon the existing contact arrangements.

Can our child choose which parent they live with?

If the child is old enough and has sufficient understanding to state a preference, the court will take into account their wishes. It is however unlikely that the child will simply be asked to choose because it is an unfair question and the reasons behind a child’s answer may be mixed. The court will however also consider wider factors, including each parent’s ability to meet the child’s needs, the child’s safety and how the new change in circumstances may affect the child.

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